‘All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.’
They say women are complex, but I fail to understand men. Over the past few years I’ve noticed a worrying trend among some of the blokes I know. They have a good gripe about their girlfriends (which is allowed – girls moan about their boyfriends too) but then they declare their intention to end the relationship. The next time they see her, the next day or even right then and there.
Days, weeks or even months later, it’s clear the relationship is NOT going to end at all, although they keep going on about it.
Everyone’s allowed to change their mind. That’s the whole point of dating. But if and when you do state a definitive intention you should stick to it or, if you’re not sure, keep it in your head.
There’s nothing worse than a man who says one thing and then does another, because you have no idea which to believe – his word or his actions. Which is what they’re really thinking?
Are they breaking up with their woman, like they say (to me), or are they not, like they do (to her)?
I’ve seen this so many times now I’m actually intrigued – why do guys do this?
Is it bravado to say something conclusive rather than to admit that they don’t really know what to do?
Do they bottle it because it’s more convenient to have a girlfriend, even if she’s annoying, than to not have a girlfriend?
Good grief, for the most part I’m not bothered if couples stay together or break up. But I do think it’s more honourable not to dither and avoid unnecessary heartache. Life’s complicated enough so make it a clean end. Don’t make yourself a liar by presenting your doubts as definitive statements and don’t mess women around by being dual-minded. In short, aim to be that increasingly rare thing – a man of your word.